From Alas, a blog – it’s a long and very thoughtful post and you should read it all if you can. It really speaks right from my heart:
Pity the Nice Guy™. Please. His world is all topsy-turvy. All he wants is to know exactly what all women want, so that he can have sex with them. But it turns out that different women want different things. Some women believe firmly in traditional gender roles, while others are believers in egalitarianism. Some women are all about hooking up, others want a commitment. And this means that a Nice Guy™ is completely unable to get it right on every single date. Quelle horreur!
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Ah, yes. What do women want? Let me ask a different question: what do men want? Well, it depends, you might say. Some men want a family. Some want sex. Some want an equal. Some are looking for a homemaker. Some are looking for someone to snuggle with on a cold winter’s night, and some are looking for someone to cuckold them while they hide in the closet and take pictures. If there are 150 million American men, there are 250 million different things that those men want.
And the same goes for women. There is no one thing that “women want.” Different women want different things. Some are looking for a friend and companion that will be with them as they build careers. Some are looking for a potential father. Some are looking for a night of commitment-free sex. Some are looking for a threesome. Some are looking for all of the above, or none of the above. And many women — and many men — aren’t sure exactly what they’re looking for.
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The older I get, the more I believe that women and men are a mystery to each other only because we are constantly told from birth that women and men are a mystery to each other, who speak different languages and are unable to actually communicate.
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Well, here’s a way to find out, guy with middling psychic powers: ask the girl. She’ll tell you.
Or maybe she won’t, but then you’ll know that she’s just looking to play games. And you’ll have to decide whether you want to play along.
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Oh, come on! How feasible is “ask the girl” really going to be? It SOUNDS like one of those great, obvious ideas that resolve a complex problem with minimum effort, like the Gordian knot of relationships, but everyone knows it’s a lot harder when you try.
http://www.city-journal.org/2008/18_4_darwinist_dating.html
Long but definitely worth a read.
aaaannnnddddd thts the way it will be till the world’s end, thank god for that. i dont want to strip away the mystery
@ramblingperfectionist:
I can only talk for myself, but it would be really feasible for me. Ask me if I’m interested and I’ll tell you nicely that I am or that I’m not. It depends on what you want from the girl. If you’re into playing games – and some people definitely enjoy it – then it won’t be the right aproach. If you just want to know whether she’s into you or not and if you can start to try building a relationship, asking is the best thing you can do.
Of course I’m aware that it’s a lot harder to actually do it, exactly because of the tilted perception that the other gender is just out to get you…
@presti:
That’s the article that the post I linked to responded to. So, my take on the whole thing is what I’ve posted here.
I think that the article is pretty much crap. But that’s my opinion.
@Ava:
I don’t want the mystery. I really don’t care for it, and I don’t think that it’s actually there. I understand guys as much as I understand girls: Some perfectly, some not at all.
Actually, I agree…I will add that in general men are simple. They only want 2 things: To be successful and to have sex, and usually one follows the other.
That is a pretty insulting view of men. If I was one, I would be offended.